Some Good Advice for the First Date May 28, 2020 – Posted in: Dating – Tags: , , ,

The perfect first date

The first date may well be a slightly awkward experience. It takes some effort and a large amount of small talk to get to know someone from scratch. But just relax and be yourself. On a first date, all you have to do is to be kind and accommodating. Have fun, let go of any expectations and keep your mind on the date. Make eye contact, smile and listen to what he says.

Good conversation topics for the first date

If you are both a little shy, it can be difficult to come up with good topics that can get the conversation going. If an embarrassing silence suddenly occur, here is a list of good questions that can get the conversation started:

  • What are your plans for the weekend?
  • What do you do for a living?
  • What is your favorite movie?
  • What do you like to do with friends?
  • Where did you grow up?
  • How many siblings do you have?
  • Do you have any pets?
  • What do you like to do on a day off?
  • What is the best vacation you have been on?

Also feel free to ask about anything from his dating profile if you have met online. Do avoid questions that can be answered with “yes” or “no” as they tend to be conversation stoppers. Also try not to make your questions sound like he’s being interviewed for the position of The Groom at Your Wedding. Instead, focus on getting to know the person sitting across from you.

Make room for questions

Maybe you’re just really good at getting other people to talk about themselves. If so, you can end up only talking about him. Stop your words from overwhelming him and make room for him to ask you something. Give honest and open answers, but don’t tell everything about yourself on the first date. Please stop yourself before telling, that he reminds you of your ex-boyfriend, that you are sometimes really sad because you so badly want to have children or that you were bullied at school.

This is personal information that belong further into the intimacy of the relationship. You don’t have to tell every tiny detail from your life, especially not when he only asked if you wanted a glass of wine.

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