Do You Always Fall for the Same Type? June 7, 2020 – Posted in: Dating – Tags: Dating, Fear of Intimacy, Love, Men, Relationship, Test

Do you have a type?

Do you keep choosing the same type in men – only to be disappointed when you can’t make the relationship work? Do you always end up with the guy who does not have a sense of humor or him who can’t or just will not commit? Has your best friends even stopped hiding their frustration when you once again show up with a new man who looks like the guy, they finally persuaded you to leave last week?

Then maybe it’s time to get to know your love patterns and start choosing a new type of man!

What type of men make your heart beat faster?

Only morons keep doing the same thing and then expect a new result. In order to discover But to find out if you are always going for the same type, you will need to find out what kind of men you are dating – and also why you just never get it right. Here is an eye-opening test: Make a list of all the men you have ever dated. And no, it’s not THAT list … 😀

Take a large piece of paper, two if you need, and then write down the names of all the men you’ve been close to. “Close” is a broad term, but the men you have kissed, been in love with, made love to, held hands and also the one night stands, the stalkers, the all-talkers, the troublemakers and that guy in the office toilet.

How to write a useful list of the men you have dated

Once you have all the names in place, make columns next to the names. You yourself have to decide on what grounds to compare them. If you are stuck here are some suggestions:

He made me feel…
Did he call me back?
Appearance: neat, ugly, dark haired, slender…
What were we talking about?
Did he make me laugh?
His job was a …
Hobbies…
As a person he was…
He told me that I was…
I got upset because…
The relationship ended because …

Making this list would seem very simple, but you will find that it gives a really good picture of your love patterns. Maybe you have a weakness for funny, tattooed men who are too busy with their career to care for you. And maybe you will also find out some new things about yourself. Do you always choose some men who are not able to show you love in a way that is important to you?

Are you actually searching for The Man of Your Dreams?

Try to compare this list with the one for The Man of Your Dreams. What are common points and what is just off? In other words, is there a need for you to change your vision? If your entire list is just one long affair with different men, if you have never been in a functional relationship with a man, then you might want to try to get help overcoming your fear of intimacy. Or maybe you just haven’t met The Man of Your Dreams yet.